Find Me Some Love - Finding True Love

Finding True Love

Have you noticed that there are lots of great people out there who have a lot going for them, but they just can't seem to find true love? So many of their friends would describe them as "a good catch" and want to hook them up with another great person they know, but it may or may not work out. It seems these days that finding true love is almost an impossibility for most people.

Why is Finding True Love So Hard?

Who's to say? Is it because men these days seem to not care if they ever get married or not? Or are people just getting too picky? There's not a blanket reason. But think about this: From the pioneer days through World War II, men were the breadwinners in the family. Women weren't expected to have careers. But now, most men can't be the sole breadwinners in the family. Times are bad (and have been for quite some time) and salaries just aren't high enough to compensate. So women have to go to college and expect to get something more out of it than just an "MRS" degree. Then they need to be able to support themselves and pay their own bills. They simply don't have time to worry about finding true love, but most still do. And when they're looking for a soul mate, their expectations are very high. Why? They work hard, so they don't want to end up with some slacker!

More and more women are waiting to get married until they're in their late 20s or early 30s. Is this by choice? Probably not. Ideally, women have babies during this time. But generally, before they have babies, they want to get married to someone they love first. After all, they want husbands, not sperm donors. If they wanted a sperm donor, they'd go to a sperm bank. Besides, it's not smart to marry someone you don't love just to have kids. If you do, your kids will see that your marriage isn't all that great and it will affect them.

Okay, we're putting the cart before the horse now. Before you have babies, you ideally want to find true love. Here are some tips about finding your true love:

Don't seem desperate. Even if you go out and try really hard not to seem desperate, if you are, you will be putting that vibe out there, like it or not, and that's not attractive (no matter how attractive you are otherwise).
Have confidence. And if you don't, at least look like you do.
Just have fun. Go out with your friends and enjoy your friends! Don't always be on the lookout for some hot guy or girl to meet.

Now, there are times when you won't be able to get around the fact that you're single and looking. For example, if you enroll in an online dating service, it's obvious you're there in hopes of finding true love. And that's okay, because others who are enrolled in this type of service are there in hopes of finding true love as well. In fact, many people feel this is the best way to go about it. There's no emotional roller coaster or "weeding out" process other than what's online. That's all done before you are attracted to someone, thereby lessening the chance of failure.

Maybe the day will come when finding true love is much easier. Until then, grin and bear it.

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